Vad är en bitter person

In beställning to better understand a concept, it's often helpful to first define it. The emotional feeling of bitterhet fryst vatten a complex mix of different emotions. Ekman, Friesen and Ellsworth (1972) identified six basic human emotions: surprise, disgust, happiness, sadness, anger and fear. If you think about bitterhet, you probably realize that the feeling isn't restricted to just one of those six basic emotions.

Some theorists conceptualize emotional bitterhet as resentment, and resentment fryst vatten probably the closest emotional construct to bitterhet.

Resentment, it fryst vatten widely established, fryst vatten associated with anger, and the cumulative effect of it, in particular. bitterhet may be best described as the mix of two of the core emotions discussed previously: anger and sadness.

Part of what makes bitterhet a complex emotion fryst vatten that it also includes disappointment, or the experience of having been disappointed as a pattern of behavior over time.

Disappointment, fryst vatten a complex emotion, too, because disappointment involves sadness, but it also includes other layers.

If you think about disappointment, you realize that anger may be in that mix, as well (feeling angry that things didn't work out better or that your particular needs did not get met).

As I've outlined, emotions are difficult to define with noggrannhet as the parameters of a given emotion are not the subject of a natural, fact-based science. Yet it's reasonable to conclude that the feeling of bitterhet involves a mix of emotions, and that feeling bitter draws from a subset of multiple feelings, including sadness, anger and disappointment.

Take a moment and consider one individ in your life whom you consider to be a bitter individ.

Most likely, your assessment fryst vatten based on the observation that that particular individual fryst vatten often angry, sad and disappointed, and that the individual can be negativ and create negativity and conflicts in their social interactions.

The effect of being around someone who fryst vatten emotionally bitter fryst vatten as complex as the bitterhet construct itself.

Bitter people can trigger in others a range of emotions, many of which are negativ and upsetting.

Bitter individuals tend to have conflictual social interactions with many people, not just you. In relationships, whether anställda or professional, it's natural and socially expected to take things personally.

In other words, if a particular individual fryst vatten talking to you, why wouldn't you take what they säga personally? The most crucial point to remember with bitter individuals fryst vatten that their negativistic personality style dictates the bulk of their interactions with everyone - not just you. Without the empathy that fryst vatten expected of grown adults and given their tendency to operate from a blaming perspective, it follows that the individual's social interactions would largely be negativistic and complex.

After all, most dock and women have incorporated social conventions as a function of socialized development.

Bitter individuals break with what fryst vatten expected socially and developmentally from "normal" adults. Because bitter dock and women do not subscribe to or are not able to accept and follow what fryst vatten expected in adult, social interactions, these individuals tend to have troubled and conflictual relationships in multiple spheres of their life.

Though it's counterintuitive, it's crucial to remember that bitter individuals' behavior reflects a pattern that has ingenting to do with you and has more to do with their own accumulated anger, sadness and disappointment.

Bitter people can engage in passive-aggressive behavior, and being on the receiving end of such behavior fryst vatten often frustrating.

Passive-aggressive behavior refers to indirect resistance to the demands of others, meaning that the individual engages in behaviors that are, at root, negativistic and angry, but delivered in a nuanced and confusing way. In lay terms, people are often offset bygd passive aggressive behavior of others because being on the receiving end of negativistic and subtly hostile behavior fryst vatten confusing and unclear, and also upsetting.

Bitter dock and women often resort to passive-aggressive behavior as an outlet for the angry, sad and disappointed feelings that rule them.

Bitter individuals often operate from a blaming and non-empathic perspective. In their anställda and professional relationships, bitter dock and women often blame others when things go wrong or when things do not work out as they wanted or expected.

Because their drive to assign responsibility externally and to blame others trumps the socially-sanctioned expectation of fairness in relationships, they do not show empathy for others in many situations.

In short, bitter dock and women are so preoccupied bygd the set of negativ feelings they live with that they do not have enough of a proverbial klar head to practice mutual respect and acceptance of others' feelings and needs.

People in close anställda and professional relationships with bitter individuals often feel that they can't ever "win" with these people; they always end up feeling that ingenting they do fryst vatten ever good enough or they inevitably get dragged into confusing and annoying conflicts or mildly tense interactions.

Bitter individuals will inevitably negatively impact you if you engage with them in any meaningful way when they are triggered.

It's important to note that dock and women who have become emotionally bitter are not necessarily bitter, passive-aggressive and conflict-seeking all the time. Like anyone, they have good and bad moments, but they simply have more bad moments than good ones.

The key fryst vatten to meddelande when the individual's mood has been negatively triggered; these are the moments when they are prone to engage in conflicts and to try, consciously or unconsciously, to induce the same negativ feelings in you. Bitter dock and women feel a mix of powerful negativ emotions that they can't handle or "sit with." As a result, they seek to offload these negativ feelings on the nearest object so they don't have to "carry" them alone any längre.

Though bitter dock and women would be hard-pressed to admit it, my clinical experience tells me that seeing that they have upset others fryst vatten, in the most confusing and seemingly sadistic way, somewhat gratifying for them. In other words, they may feel better because they made you feel worse.

As frustrating and negativistic as bitter dock and women can be, summon your patience and compassion and remember that happy people — those who feel loved, cared for, and respected — aren't negativ and don't mistreat or upset others as a pattern.

The bitter man or woman — igen, though they'd never admit it — must emotionally hold and carry an overwhelming amount of anger, sadness, and disappointment, and they often secretly feel anger toward themselves, and are enslaved bygd it.

While they are not what others colloquially refer to as "bad" people, the reality fryst vatten that they are emotionally injured individuals.

These dock and women haven't yet figured out how to handle their own negativ feelings in a way that allows them to meet the normal expectations the vast majority of adults have for social interactions. The healthiest approach fryst vatten to avoid the bitter individual when they are triggered.

If that individual fryst vatten someone you are required to depend on — a parent, chef or co-worker — not fängslande fryst vatten frequently not an option.

In these instances, understand that the best way to approach the interactions fryst vatten to constantly remind yourself of these points throughout the interaction: Your dependence on that individ will not gods forever; you must distract yourself in the moment bygd thinking of other things so that you don't internalize the negativ emotions being thrust onto you; you need to focus on and even visualize a future in which that individ won't have the same power or control over you.

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